Mindy: Welcome to the BiggerPockets Money podcast, where we interview Tamara Hermes and talk about shifting your money mindset and removing limiting beliefs.
Guest: What I like to do is I like to chunk things down because when we think of, I want to buy five properties this year, it’s a lot, it’s overwhelming. You’ll be amazed how your mind works once you start chunking things down and putting it in motion, set a smaller goal, set something that you can that’s palatable that you that you feel like you can reach.
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Mindy: Scott, I am super excited to bring in Tamara Hermes today. She is an author, she’s a coach and she grew up without any money and for the longest time she felt like she didn’t deserve to have it. And then she changed her mind. She changed her mindset. And now, she’s got some of it. She’s got quite a bit of it and she is here to share with you how to change your money mindset so that you can go out and get what you deserve as well.
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Mindy: Tamara Hermaise, welcome to the Bigger Pockets Money Podcast. I am so excited to talk to you today.
Guest: I am very excited to be here. I love to talk about money and I am looking forward to a great conversation.
Mindy: Oh good, we love to talk about money too, so this is going to be awesome. Tell us a little bit about yourself. how did you get started investing?
Guest: So, investing happened for me when I was in my late 20s. I started dabbling in the stock market when I was working in entertainment. and let’s just say it wasn’t going that well for me. And after I had lost about $20,000, I started looking at other options to see how I could make more money. And that’s when I got my first duplex and purchased real estate. Now since my portfolio has expanded, I do have stocks, I do believe in a diversified portfolio, although I am a huge fan of real estate and that’s where predominantly 80% of my portfolio is today.
Mindy: Oh, that was gonna be my next question. How does your uh in terms of percentages? So you’re like 80% real estate and 20% stocks and things like that.
Guest: Well, actually, I’m probably about 3% stock and then I’m probably about 7% private equity, which is a very interesting area to invest. And uh have a little bit of crypto and uh uh, I’m trying to think what else. I, you know, it’s it’s really that that really, I know I didn’t add it up from 80 to 100. I I’m better at math than that, but that’s kind of how it works out. It’s that 20% of just a mix.
Mindy: Okay, and one of your pillars of success is overcoming fear and building concrete money habits. Let’s talk about that. How does someone do that? because overcoming fear is like, it’s super easy to say. I just said it twice, but it’s really hard to do in reality.
Guest: It’s so hard to do and one of the things that I told myself when I was going to be on this podcast was that I wanted to be as vulnerable as I could and share truthfully that fear is is very real for everybody. Even when you’re at a multimillion dollar level, you’re always dealing with new challenges and when you deal with new challenges and things you’re not comfortable with, fear comes up. For me, I grew up really without money and it was it was not a question of whether or not I was going to get money. For me, failure wasn’t an option because my my life was not in such a way that I was willing to go through my entire life without any resources.
Scott: Awesome. How how does someone um overcome these these fears and work through past negative money mentalities to get on a better trajectory with money?
Guest: Yes, so the first thing I believe is to do what I just uh explained in terms of being vulnerable and in terms of getting in touch honestly with the feelings and where they come from and just acknowledging the fact that you’re scared and it’s okay and that most people are. I have friends that have billion dollar portfolios and every time they invest in something, they get a little pang. So it’s just something that we need to understand that it’s part of our human nature. and then once you understand that it’s part of your human nature, then all of a sudden you can start to feel like, okay, everybody else is feeling this too. I’m not the only person, I’m not the person that is going to fall down and lose money on a property or lose 20,000 in the stock market and be a complete loser. We, that’s how we learn, that’s how we grow. And so once you start taking that approach, you are a lot further along. And for me, it was really, I I’ve had a ton of failures. I am someone that is willing to fall down and get back up. And I think when you decide that you want a certain life for yourself and when you commit and commit and commit and recommit, you really have a wonderful chance of the success that you want to see with money.
Scott: Um, you know, it’s one thing for a, uh, a millionaire to invest 50 or 100 grand of those types of things. um, and it’s quite another for someone making their first investment in real estate from a risk and and scale perspective. So I’ll give you an example. Uh when I started out my career, I was making $48,000 a year. I had saved up $20,000 in my life and I bought a duplex for $240,000. That was five times my annual income and I’m levered 95 to five, right? Because I got a 5% down FHA loan. That is um, a whole different ballpark of risk and scale that I think we we a lot of folks can forget about once you’re multiple years on in the investing journey or 5, 10 years in the investing journey, you’ve got assets and you know, equity or net worth in excess of a million dollars. Oh buying your first duplex, what, you know, what is that? But now, I think the scale the the the scale that problem is even bigger. I think that someone in that position might be earning $60,000 a year with inflation now, but they’re buying a $400,000 property which is six or seven times uh their annual income. How do we get over that level of fear? and is a certain amount of fear healthy?
Guest: Yes. I think a certain amount of fear is very healthy because that lets you know that you’re stretching yourself and that you’re entering into an area of growth because all the fear is really just an opportunity to learn and and it is I, you know, I I completely understand what you’re talking about Scott because my clients come to me all the time with similar scenarios and what I do is the same thing that I do today, which is I look at what’s really going to happen. What the mitigating of the risks, right? looking at if I take a $60,000 and I buy a $400,000 property, what are my chances of not finding a tenant? What are my chances of not being able to cash flow the way I’m projecting having ACs go out, whatever, whatever uh capex expenses can happen that we may not be ready for. So once I look at that, what I realized is that what we think the worst thing that will happen is generally not going to play out in that same way. And I think that’s a really important thing to remember is that no matter what happens, uh, even if let’s say, you know, you don’t have the expense you don’t have the money for the AC, you can get a partner to to go in in the property with you. You can talk to a friend or family and have them invest with you or loan you the money. There’s always solutions we can find and we just have to remember that we’re more resourceful. So, yeah, I mean it is it’s very scary. I’m not going to say that it’s not to be to be investing is a big deal and I and and everyone can do it and there’s going to be that level where we need to talk to ourselves and remember that other people have done this and that we also can find the space inside of ourselves to to to take a mitigated risk to invest and then it gets easy like you said, it gets easier and easier and easier. and sometimes it’s hard still, you know, I mean it it’s it is still challenging, although it does get easier as we go.
Mindy: I like your your, uh, point to think about the the issues, the that you might be facing like, oh, what is it that scares me about this? These are the things writing a big list. I love writing lists. These are my pros and cons of this investment strategy or these are the big fears I have. Let’s use real estate as an example. Oh, my tenant could trash my house. Yes, your tenant could trash your house. Does it happen frequently? No. and you can mitigate your risk by buying in a neighborhood where people are traditionally going to take care of the properties. They have, we have uh grades of neighborhoods that real estate investors traditionally talk about an A neighborhood, a B neighborhood, a C neighborhood. An A neighborhood is somebody who is a professional, a doctor, an attorney, a business person of some sort. They traditionally do not move into a house and trash it. Yes, some do. But, you know, there’s outliers everywhere. If you have this huge fear of having your home trashed then mitigate that risk by going in and buying a house in a neighborhood where you’re renting to people who are traditionally not going to trash the house. There. Now you’ve crossed off that issue. That’s going to be a more expensive property, most likely than a C neighborhood where, you know, people are more working class and there’s people may lose their jobs more frequently, people may have uh more volatile relationships. I’m really, really, really trying not to say terrible, terrible things here and I think I’m I’m uh doing a terrible job of that. But I mean, you know what I’m saying? There are great neighborhoods and there are neighborhoods that are not so great. and in a great neighborhood, your risks of a house being completely trashed are going to be a lot less. So, you know, what are your big fears? And I did a uh talk a few years ago at a conference called Fin Con about real estate investing and I interviewed four investors. Um, I said how frequently do you get midnight phone calls. And there were four investors. one said never, one said never, one said never and one said once um no, two said never, one said once and one said I never got that call, but somebody did tell me that there was an impromptu rap concert on my roof. So you don’t have these big fears that you think, these big problems that you think you’re going to have if you put some thought into it. Now, if you just go and buy the cheapest house you can find, you’re gonna have a big problem. But I love the idea of making a list of like your biggest fears of investing and then knocking those out. Let’s look at stocks. I fear that I’m going to lose my money. Okay, then maybe don’t invest in Tesla. Carl, uh, we are recording this on January 3rd.
Guest: I personally love Tesla. I it it went up very, very well for a long time. So even though it’s down now, I’m I’m pretty happy with Tesla still.
Mindy: It’s uh down a lot.
Guest: Right, right. yeah, but what I used to be 6% of tomorrow is never worth so. Well right, right? Yeah, exactly, exactly. That’s true, right? But the, you know, the other thing that I wanted to share and this is this is a great point to the mindset and what you’re sharing Mindy, is starting to be expansive in terms of the way we look at money. So like the problems that we’re talking about are real. I actually have it’s interesting that you were talking about places not getting trashed. I have several Airbnbs in Austin and recently I had long-term tenants in there, not too long, but like the long short, the medium term rentals, right? The great medium term rentals. and one of my features is that I allowed pets. Now, I have to tell you, I’ve spent probably about $1000 fixing two properties where people were not responsible with their pets. And it was really not a great time for me, but what I did was in terms of thinking about the money was I thought, okay, I’m spending $1000 but I just made five. So it’s okay. It’s like, yes, this was a hassle, but I was able to make more money. So in other words, I started to think in terms of expanding the amount of money that is made when you own a property just like the appreciation that people make over time. Uh and uh and even being in Tesla, if you were in Tesla for five years, you made money, even though it’s down now, you made a certain amount of money. So starting to trust the process, which is a little bit of time and uh and also believing that you can make more than what you have right now.
Scott: Well with that, are there any tips or tricks that you’d have for folks that are trying to get make a lot of headway in the early part of 2023 here? How how can we take advantage of the the new year? to begin that process?
Guest: Absolutely. What I like to do is I like to chunk things down because when we think of, I want to buy five properties this year, it’s a lot, it’s overwhelming and it can be and it’s a little daunting about where to start. So I might say, okay, I know what my year vision is. I know I maybe want to buy five, which is a lot, but you know, maybe that’s what I want. So I should put that down on paper and in my mind. And then I would say, okay, so the the first thing to do is to find one and uh, and I might say that’s my quarter goal and I might put that down for the first quarter. I’m going to find a property. And then when I think about that, then I look at, okay, how much money do I really have to spend? I mean, if I have 60, I probably maybe have 40 to put down. And then start looking at where I can find those properties and then you’ll be amazed also how your mind works once you start chunking things down and putting it in motion, how you’ll be able to start finding solutions and people, oh, I know a realtor in that area that I can call that really knows investing or uh, you know, I know someone who could who could support me with a property management company or I know a wholesaler. like they’re, it’s amazing what we can find once we start to chunk things down. So I would say set a smaller goal, set something that you can that’s palatable, that you that you feel like you can reach and whatever you do, don’t look at Mindy Scott or I and say, oh, but they have this because we’re all at different stages. Everyone, I mean, we can all look at different people and look up and just think, oh my gosh, how am I going to get there. But you want to really honor where you’re at and enjoy the process as much as you can because it actually can be an exciting journey getting into investing and the fact that you’re listening to the money podcast and you’re learning about money and we should be able to find joy in it instead of getting it as we feel the the tension and the and the worry about what might happen. also realizing that we’re on our road and and thinking about those things. Those are really that really will help your mindset as you’re walking through challenges that are not that easy.
Mindy: Speaking of challenges that are not that easy, how do you handle creating these habits and goals if your partner or your friend group isn’t on board. I mean every real estate investor out there knows a thousand people who will say, oh all landlords are slum lords and you’ll never make money and here’s a bunch of stories about everybody I know who did it wrong.
Guest: Yeah, that’s people, they’re they’re is that old saying you’re the some of the five people that you hang around and I really do think that a lot of times, if we are around a lot of negative people, we really need to ask ourselves, what are we asking the world for? What are we what kind of life do we, you know, want? Like if you’re around someone that is constantly if everyone around you is doomsday and telling you everything’s going to be bad and that you’re not going to be able to do things, you may want to reach out. Go to a meet up and meet some people that are excited about investing and connect with them and get excited together. It changes everything. So when you and obviously if it’s a partner, I think that you need to have those conversations and what I like to do is meet in the middle because sometimes I’m a little more aggressive than my husband. And so he might say, okay, well I don’t want to refinance the house and take this much equity out. I’m not comfortable with that. So we’ll find a happy medium. and so, you know, maybe if there’s $80,000 in the bank account and some of it is in stocks, maybe a portion of that can be in real estate if that’s what you’re interested in and you can you can meet in the middle together and uh and partner that way.
Scott: Yeah, I think another thing I’ll add on to that is, you know, you you’ve mentioned process and I think that’s a really important word here. um because I think personally and I’d love to get your opinion on this, I think a bad goal, a bad goal is to say, I’m going to buy a duplex in the next three to six months because that’s going to force you into action in an artificially constrained timeline versus I’m going to analyze 10 deals a week with the BP calculator, GoPro uh uh or uh join an accountability group or um meet with five agents um to go over the market and set up these feeds. You know, if you analyzed 100 properties over the course of Q1, then you’re highly likely to be confident and like the best of those deals is probably a good deal uh in your market and if that makes sense to you, you can pull the trigger on that. How do you feel about that that framing of goals instead of, you know, as a process related goal rather than an outcome based goal?
Guest: Well, I think that the process is really is really important and I think that’s a great way to do it. Although I don’t mind giving myself a goal like I am going to buy a property, but I know that if I don’t find that property then I’m not going to buy it. I have to say that there have been times where I’ve gone into deals because I said I set a goal and I knew the numbers were good, but I was afraid and and the fact that I had that goal in mind pushed me to go forward. So sometimes I think that as long as you’re rational with yourself, I mean if you are just doing it, if you set yourself a goal and you realize, you know what the numbers don’t work, this is very risky and I don’t, I don’t like the variables here, then yeah, you have to pass on it. But if you set if you really, if you really make something concrete for yourself and you are at that at that crossroads where you can actually say, okay, this is a good deal and I said I was going to do this, so I’m going to go for it because sometimes it’s like if I don’t say I’m going to do it, there’s a lot of people that just end up analyzing and analyzing and analyzing. So, I maybe you have to look at yourself and meet in the middle somewhere of where you’re actually going to cross the finish line.
Scott: So maybe a goal that was phrased like this would would check both of our boxes. I’m going to analyze 100 deals that catch my eye over the next over Q1, uh, they’re gonna be in this part of town and if one of them meets this level of criteria, I’m gonna make an offer. Yes. How’s that? With that, with that would that work?
Guest: That’s great. Yes. I like that.
Guest: That’s great.
Mindy: Yeah, I like the way you phrase that Scott because not every property that you make an offer on is going to be accepted. Your criteria for that property to to work for you may not match what the seller needs. And that doesn’t mean that you’re a failure for making the offer that doesn’t work for the seller. And I think that this is where a lot of people get kind of tripped up. They’re like, oh, well, I made an offer but it wasn’t accepted. Well, okay, so go make another offer on a property that fits your criteria. That doesn’t mean change your criteria and get a property at any uh, at any price and and, you know, I have to own a property. No, you if you want to be a real estate investor, you need to own a property that works for you financially. Just having a property, I mean not every property makes good sense. Some properties don’t make sense at any price.
Guest: 100%. and I also think that at a certain point we mitigate as many risks as we can and there’s always going to be something where yeah, I can kind of see how this will play out. I’ve had situations where an Airbnb couldn’t be Airbnb any longer, but I had planned ahead so that I could turn it into a long-term rental. So I I had another plan in place. So I I kind of I I was prepared. I mean, it was not my best case scenario because I didn’t make the kind of cash flow that I had anticipated, but I still was able to make the property work. So I think that some of that is is really important and I think that we need to understand that even though our projected numbers are a certain way, if we don’t make as much or if we lose a little money, it is part of learning and it is part of being an investor, which is that most most investors have lost some money at some point along the way. Granted, we want to be careful, we want to be smart, we want to take mitigated risks, but we also can’t be so scared where we just don’t take any action because we’re afraid that the one thing that we think will happen will happen and then just not go forward with it. and I see that too often.
Scott: this is this is fantastic. I can think of so many good goals that come out of this. First, listen to 30 to 50 bigger pockets podcasts in Q1 to get educated, read five of the books, go uh meet five of the agents in your local area at biggerpockets.com/agents to begin your networking and use the go GoPro and use the calculators to analyze uh 100 deals over the first quarter and make an offer on any that meet your pre-established criteria once you’ve determined what good looks like. What a set of plugs for bigger pockets. That’s the most I think we’ve ever been able to plug bigger pockets and it’s all good stuff. You should do that if you’re interested in real estate investing.
Guest: Absolutely.
Mindy: Scott, are you talking about biggerpockets.com?
Scott: That’s the one.
Guest: The the other thing is that while you’re going through all that, you need to do the mindset work. So you need to remember, one of the things I love is in James Clear’s book, uh, and Atomic habits. If you haven’t read that, that’s a great book for discipline and for setting goals. And one of the things he says is to ask yourself, uh, you know, am I the kind of person who would do this? So if I want to invest in real estate or I want to invest in stocks or whatever it is, I have to ask myself, you know, am I the kind of person that would analyze this many deals? Yes, I would. If I was a serious investor, I would be that kind of person. So remind yourself when you get tired or you feel like you’re defeated or whatever happens, ask yourself, what kind of person do I want to be? I do this even sometimes with snacking. I’ll say, well, am I the kind of person that snacks all the time or am I the kind of person that steps out of the kitchen and gets back to work? You know, and I have to ask myself that. So it’s it’s a really important to have these tools and to remember to take care of yourself and and remind yourself that as you’re going through the journey and as it gets, you know, as you’re on that 99 deal of of analyzing that you say I’m the kind of person that is going to invest in real estate.
Scott: Wow, I love that. Go read Atomic Habits. That is a great book and I I love that concept of I want to get to this goal, I need who is the person I need to become? And this is universal across um, you know, folks with a success mindset, folks that are in the the the personal success, um and and and uh uh self-educational space, like Darren Hardy would say the same thing um as James Clear as Tamara. So, I I love it. What are some other habits um that I can put in place that would help me become a more successful person? What are some other thought starters for New Year’s resolution goals?
Guest: Well, I think that in addition to being um in addition to a thought starter is to do practice the miracle morning work or whatever you want to call it. That’s the Hal Elrod book, but there’s a million things that we can do to start out our day and take care of our health. And I think that that really, it sounds like, well, wait, I’m trying to figure out a fought to invest in real estate, but I feel like a lot of my success has to do with the discipline, with me getting up in the morning and doing a cold plunge every day, with me doing all the things that step into the what I want to create. And I think the other thing that’s really helpful is if you’re, if you’re setting yourself up, like let’s say we have this plan to analyze a certain amount of properties, I think what’s really great is at the end of each day, do a checklist and and see how far you’ve gotten and say, okay, well, did I analyze any deals today? And if I didn’t, then the next day, write down, okay, I’m going to create, you know, if I work a full time job, then I’m going to get home and from six to seven, I’m going to analyze deals, make that part of, make that a calendar timed where you’re going to actually find, find, commit to a, to a block where you’re going to do that work and then don’t be on your phone, don’t do anything else, just do the work and then you’ll see at the end, okay, I’ve analyzed five deals. That might even be the time where you find the deal or maybe you say you’re going to go to a meet up and you calendar that in and you go to the meet up and then you meet your partner that, you know, ends up, I I can’t tell you how many people I know that I’ve met at meetups and turn their turn themselves into big, big business partnerships from actually, you know, oh I’m tired, I don’t want to go. Oh, but I said I’m going to go to this meet up. So I get up, I go, and then I meet someone that changes my life.
Scott: Yep. And if you are having trouble at the meetup, your first question should be to go up to somebody and say, hi, my name is what kind of investing do you do?
Mindy: Most people, it’s it’s even if you’re an introvert, you can listen to somebody talk and people want to talk about themselves. Most people want to talk about themselves. So you just say what kind of investing do you do? Oh I do this blah blah blah and 20 minutes later they’re still talking and that’s OK. You’ve either realized this is somebody I really want to talk to or oh look at that it’s time for me to go get another beer.
Scott: Here’s another good one. bring a deal analysis to the meetup.
Guest: And see if anybody is willing to talk about that. that’s a great conversation starter.
Scott: I love if someone brought that. I’d say, oh I don’t know, I’m I’m not sure about the rents there. This yeah actually know I have a property right right by there and it rents for exactly the same amount. That’s a great projection.
Guest: Yeah, that’s a great idea. And the other thing that really helps with mindset, I find that if I’m if I have certain goals and I’m getting frustrated and it’s not moving as quickly and maybe the quarter ends and I analyzed all these deals, but I didn’t quite find the deal that that uh that works for me. What really helps is to start thinking about how you can be in service of other people or how you can ask other people, how they are. or there’s always someone that needs a hand or or, you know, maybe they need help with their deal analysis. And it’s amazing how it sort of releases this pressure of me me me and wanting to get that goal done and sort of expanding into other people and that kind of also opens a lot of energy uh where you can start to see that new things start to cultivate when you start thinking about uh how else you can help somebody else instead of worrying so much on your own ideas.
Scott: I love that. coming at it with a, you can always be a mentor and you can always be a mentee um in in these situations. And that’s a great, like if you want to get a mentor or somebody that that that can help you achieve your goals, if you start first by saying who are people that are behind me that I can help, um, that’s a great way to do it. And you can do that even if you are heavily in debt and have nothing. There’s always people who need to be um, tutored or helped out in some some capacity. So I think that’s a great, a great way to frame that.
Guest: This is this is a point that really speaks dear to my heart because I grew up feeling like it wasn’t okay to have money. I think that for a lot of the listeners, if they grew up without money, then there is a part of of you that might feel like, well, I didn’t grow up with money, nobody in my family had money. I’ve never known how to make money. Why am I supposed to have money? How can I be one of those people? And I think that it’s important to the way that we the way that I got past it was to just show up again and again telling myself that I in my heart felt that I was going to figure out a way to make money. And I think that with the commitment, it really can make a huge difference in terms of your perception. So, because what happens is that if I feel that it’s not okay for me to have money and even sometimes I still get that pain because I just had it for so long not having money. And so what I need to remind myself, what I do is I check in with myself and then I just keep showing up as that person that really wants to have that life with financial security and keeps moving into that. And as I did that, I start to become a different person because I start to have more money and I start to see more wins and then I change the perception of who I am because the truth is is that we’re just stuck in the stories of what our life was and and it’s it’s just part of our journeys. And unless we’re willing to stand up and say, you know what, it’s okay for me to have money. It’s not bad, it’s not greedy. In fact, I can help more people, I can do more things, I can live the life I want, I can support my family, I can do all, I can have health care, I can do all the things that are really important to me and once, once you step into really honoring that, it really will start to unfold for you step by step. It is a process. I have to say I’m not a spring chicken, even though I look fabulous. But I uh I’m, you know, it’s taken me a very long time and a lot of reminders because there were a lot of scars about being about being poor as a child and not knowing money and just not feeling like it wasn’t for me, I wasn’t supposed to have it. And uh I think it’s really uh important to have that dialogue with yourself and ask yourself if you’re falling into that. It’s one of the points actually in my book that a lot of women talk about about uh that point to me where I talk about it’s okay to have money. A lot of people really relate to that because I just think that there there are people that grow up hearing, you’re greedy if you want money or money is bad, it’s the root of all evil. All these crazy things and the it’s really quite the opposite. So I think that once we, once we continually step into it, uh, into the action steps of of learning and of being compassionate to ourselves because at least face it, it’s not easy when you come from nothing and you’re trying to figure out how the heck to do this. So, uh, you know, this is a process and we’ll and we need to realize that we’re going to get there step by step, but we will get there.
Mindy: Okay, I am here to tell everybody who is listening, you deserve to have money, you can be wealthy if you put in the work and you do the research and take the leap. You’re not greedy for wanting it. It isn’t the root of all evil and you can be wealthy. I give you permission.
Guest: I give you permission.
Mindy: I give you permission. There you go. Not that you needed my permission, but I I understand what you’re saying. It’s really hard to change how you grew up. You I mean, you can’t change how you grew up, but it’s hard to change the mindset that you grew up with. So there you go. In 2023, Mindy Jensen giving you permission to be wealthy. All you have to do is do the work. I mean, I’m not gonna give you the money. I’m gonna don’t do the lottery. Don’t win the lottery.
Guest: Come on, Mindy. It’s 2023. That’s the best strategy. Mindy is going to give you all her money.
Mindy: Yeah, that’s that’s not gonna who you’re breaking up. TomorrowSpatial can’t hear you. Tamara, this has been so much fun. I really appreciate your time. Please tell people where they can find more about you.
Guest: Absolutely. Uh, you can find me on my website or on Instagram at wealth building concierge, concierge, c o n c i e r g e. Someone told me that that was too hard of a word and I said, well, you got to figure out how to spell it. That’s just how it’s going to be. And uh, and um, you can also go on tamarabook.com to get the Millionaire’s mentality, my book uh, on a professional women’s guide of building wealth through real estate, but I really talk about all my mindset blocks and my story of how I grew up and how hard it was for me to make money and why I’m so passionate about uh other’s being able to to change their mindset and to live the life that they really want with the money that they really want.
Mindy: Awesome. Thank you. We will include links to these in our show notes. Tamara, thank you so much for your time today and we’ll talk to you soon.
Guest: Thanks for having me.
Mindy: All right, that was Tamara and Scott, I’m a little inspired by Tamara. Let’s come up with some of our own goals to help our listeners.
Scott: Yeah, I thought it would be fun to talk through a couple of uh high level goals that might be thought starters for you um if you’re still wondering what to what to do in Q1 2023. Personally, I like to think in with goals in terms of every quarter, so I set goals every quarter. I don’t even have any annual goals. I have three to five year goals and I have quarterly goals. and I find that find that’s worked for me, but here are three potential ones for you to consider. First, in Q1 2023, draft and review with your partner, if you have one, your 2023 goals, your life vision, an artifact there and then an investment philosophy. and we talked about drafting an investment philosophy and there’s a template provided in episode 362 of the Bigger Pockets Money podcast. If you’re a real estate investor, consider in Q1 analyzing 100 real estate deals with the bigger pockets calculators for example, meeting with three to five local real estate agents, writing down a crystal clear, maybe one to two paragraph strict definition of what a good deal means to you in your target market and offer on at least one deal that meets that very strict criteria, even if it’s below the asking price. And then third, prepare a household budget and review it with your your significant other. By the way, I recommend that you have no more than one high level financial goal in a quarter and the other two goals are in other areas of life, like relationships, personal fitness, health, whatever.
Mindy: I like that. Uh, okay, and Scott tagging off of you to use the Bigger Pockets calculators, you will need a Bigger Pockets pro membership, but we’ve got a 20% discount code for you. Please use the code moneyshow 23, which is good for the entire year, 2023, uh to get a 20% off your Bigger pockets pro membership. All right, my money goal suggestions are, set up a bi weekly or monthly financial date to review your financial situation and plan. You can create this together with your partner or you can do it solo if you do not have a partner. And for a little bit of advice and guidance, we did an episode all about how to set up a money date. and this is on episode 157 of the Bigger Pockets Money podcast. Uh another thing I want you to do is review your expenses like insurance and streaming services things that you might not think about on a daily basis or a monthly basis even, get new quotes or assess how frequently you’re using the product. I recently, that personal experience, I got new quotes on my insurance. I had the bare minimum, uh car insurance and pretty low homeowner’s insurance. We had um a run up on home values in our area. So I reached out to my insurance company or a new insurance company and I said, hey can you quote me a a better policy? And for the same, for less than what I was paying for the bottom of the barrel car and house insurance, I got a better car insurance policy, a better house insurance policy and an umbrella policy. So your insurance company is not gonna reward you with your with for your loyalty, so don’t reward them with yours. Also how many of those streaming services do you really, really, really need? uh you don’t need all of them probably, so see the ones that you use the most and get rid of the rest or watch everything on that one streaming service and then stop paying for it and cancel it. Uh, number three, explore new investment strategies. look up one to three new investment strategies and do a little bit of information, do a little, I’m sorry, do a little bit of research into these and see if it’s something you want to explore further. Like we said in the episode today, if you can’t, if you don’t understand what you’re investing in, you’re not going to be doing yourself any favors investing and you could very well lose a lot of money. So do some research, see if there’s a new investment strategy that might fit your investment philosophy a little bit better.
Scott: Love it. Well hopefully those are helpful. Um, obviously your goals are your goals. So personalize them to your situation and these are just thought starters. We appreciate you listening and hope you have a wonderful and successful 2023 and move towards financial freedom, whatever that means to you. Should we get out of here?
Mindy: Let’s do it. From this episode of the Bigger Pockets Money podcast, he is Scott Trench and I am Mindy Jensen saying, gotta kick it Cricket.
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